We live in a generation where the idea of love is misconstrued. According to the dictionary, Love is described as “an intense feeling of deep affection”. However, the factors or the things that we ‘believe’ go into love were man made and are just passed down from generation to generation. Today’s generation in particular, executes their love according to what they see on television or how others around them love on one another; but just because you see someone else doing something that does not make it right. We as a generation have been misled. Love in our generation is described as “being a ride or die. Love in our generation “hurts” and Love in our generation is “crazy”.
Speaking from experience, growing up and dating, I always believed that guys were going to hurt me but that it was okay because that’s what Love was suppose to feel like. For me love wasn’t 100% faithful. Love could mean physically being hurt because people “slip” up. Love was going through my boyfriends phone every day and him going through mine. Love was us having one another’s location and not allowing one another to have friends of the opposite sex all because we had to be crazy in order to be in love. All that “love” died. And in almost EVERY relationship around me, if there love was based on those things, it did die and if it hasn’t; it will.
Love isn’t supposed to make you “crazy”. Love isn’t supposed to intentionally hurt you over and over. Love doesn’t mean decreasing your value just to meet someone down low. Love and Lust is not the same thing. If you feel you have to have sex with your partner to determine connection, you are still blind to what love really is; and I think you will always be blind until you have a relationship with God. God should be the foundation for any relationship; without him you will go but so far. As a 21-year-old woman who spends her life studying relationships; older and younger I’ve noticed that most failed relationships are missing God. And in a world where confusion about love lies, it is crucial for us to understand and uphold the Bible’s definition of love.
I think the most important factor about love is that it is always circular. Because we love God, we love each other; thus we are fulfilling Jesus’ GREATEST commandment (John 13:34:35).
In our generation, Love is conditional and it is based upon how other people behave toward us, but it should be UNCONDITIONAL as Jesus gives to us.
Love is an action, as it is a choice. It goes far beyond feelings because as I have mentioned before; feelings are temporary. Love is choosing to choose someone despite of what they may do to piss you off; despite of their flaws; despite of their shortcomings. God CHOOSES to love us. Just like we CHOOSE to love on one another. I think when we look at love like a feeling; we think it’s okay to turn it on and off. We base how we treat our significant others, on how we woke up “FEELING” that morning. You’re not always going to roll over to your significant other and say “Omg I want to cook him the best meal, or Omg I want to open every door for her”. Some days you’re going to feel like “he can warm up some noodles or she can get her own door with her own two hands”, but you have to CHOSE to do that because you love them. Not the other way around.
I’m going to leave you all with the WORD; the only truth:
“I may speak in different languages, whether human or even of angels. But if I don’t have love, I am only a noisy bell or a ringing cymbal. I may have the gift of prophecy, I may understand all secrets and know everything there is to know, and I may have faith so great that I can move mountains. But even with all this, if I don’t have love, I am nothing. I may give away everything I have to help others, and I may even give my body as an offering to be burned. But I gain nothing by doing all this if I don’t have love. Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, and it is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not selfish, and it cannot be made angry easily. Love does not remember wrongs done against it. Love is never happy when others do wrong, but it is always happy with the truth. Love never gives up on people. It never stops’ trusting, never loses hope, and never quits. Love will never end” - 1 Corinthians 13:1-8