I just wanna talk a little bit about what i look for in a relationship and how my views on relationships have changed over time.
So for starters, i came a long long way. The things i looked for in a man where so worldly and for lack of a better word, unfortunate LOL. When i was in high school, i wanted a guy who was about 6ft tall, darker than me, but not too dark, funny, and from the “hood”. Clearly all FLESH. Then i moved on to wanting a guy who was doing big things like an athlete or had a really good job; and I was attracted to men who had a past because I gained satisfaction in “changing them”. ( I never really changed them). Instead, their bad habits rubbed off on me and I was burdened. So long story short, my relationships in the past were just practice, and in a good way, helped me reach the perspective that I have now, but all glory be to God.
Today, I don’t care about money, I don’t care about how tall or how dark you are. I don’t care about these worldly factors and do you want to know why? Because those things can’t make me happy, I’ve had every single one and here I am single. My new understanding of what Love is and what Love isn’t according to the word of the Lord has also affected my expectations in my next relationship, per say.
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, and it is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not selfish, and it cannot be made angry easily. Love does not remember wrongs done against it. Love is never happy when others do wrong, but it is always happy with the truth. Love never gives up on people. It never stops trusting, never loses hope, and never quits. Love will never end. But all those gifts will come to an end—even the gift of prophecy, the gift of speaking in different kinds of languages, and the gift of knowledge” - 1 Corinthians 13:4-8.
After reading this scripture on what Love is and isn’t, you may question the relationship that you are currently in, and if you question it, chances are you should not be in it and for my single people, I hope your expectations and standards rise because you deserve and will get a love like this as long as you are obedient.
Sayings like “it’s too good to be true” don’t exist with God as anything is possible with him; as long as you trust him, pray and align yourself in a position to receive what Jesus Christ has saved for you.
My one and only relationship goal is to have a man of God and i know you guys are probably like just that? Yes, just that because once I have that, i know i will have everything else. Examples: He will love me, he will protect me, he will provide for me, and will never hurt me because God has shown him how to love.
The day i gave myself to Christ, was the day everything started and is STILL falling in place for me, so I know that the man God has for me is a man of God with the full package. As long as he is following God, he will know how to lead my family. Set this standard for yourself and watch how your life changes. Amen.